For My Owls

For those of you who know me, you’ve known my love for owls. For those of you who don’t know me, I have an extensive collection. I’ve collected pretty much anything I stumble across and I’ve been given many gifts over the years too from people who know my appreciation for these magnificent, wise, and beautiful creatures. I’ve been asked why by some, and some not. I was reminded just the other night of why. And I felt inspired to share my story.

Best start from the beginning. When I was a young sprout, we lived on 40 acres in the country. We had a variety of wildlife we saw on a regular basis, otters, porcupines, bears, wolves, coyotes, deer, fox, etc. That home is the basis of what has fed my soul’s passion for nature ever since. I spent so many days and some nights wandering through the woods, exploring, building forts, and playing hide and seek. My peace is in nature, it is the very thing that calms my storms and stills my mind. When we first moved up North from Andover, I was about 5 years old. At night during the summer time, I would sleep with the window open a bit to let the breeze in. And in the dead of night, aside from the sound of the crickets chirping and the rustling in the leaves, I would hear two owls talking to each other. Nearly every night, at about the same time, one sat to the left of my window, the other in the backyard. I remember laying there at night, waiting to hear their calls to each other, wondering what they were saying, and if they were family or simply enjoyed each other’s company while so many others were sleeping. They sounded so content, just happy to be. There was comfort in hearing those hoots in the quietness of the night, and on occasion I’d poke my head up out the window and catch a glimpse of one of them, sometimes both – illuminated just a bit from the moonlight, if they were close enough of course. Each season passed, and years went by, but no matter what, there remained those owls. Eventually they would go away for awhile, but they would always come back to visit.

I’ve moved a few times, but with every move, I have spotted an owl outside my window. Grey, quiet, and observant.

I have been going through a rough time right now. A damn difficult time. And a few weeks ago, I woke up from a dead sleep. I heard an owl outside my window, the same owl call as I heard so many nights as a little girl – calling out my window once again. I laid in bed, smiling, a true, happy smile. I don’t know if I’ve ever been so happy to hear one of my owls again. And the following night, he was back again, woke me up, a bit closer that night, and I can’t help but feel he was talking to me. Again, a smile on my face as I listened to him until I fell back asleep.

No matter where I have been, no matter the time that passes or obstacles I’ve had, my owl has always been there. Ever since I was little.

Everyone has their own signs, beliefs or religion. My owls reminded me to keep going and I am never alone, that they will always come back. All of those nights they spoke to each other, they were happy to just exist in our grand natural world, alone or together, sometimes present, sometimes gone. They have seen me through my life since I was 5 years old. And I am humbly reminded to choose to be happy, to be pleased to just exist and love and see the world, for my owls, like my owls. And to continue to gain wisdom and grow along the way as they have. I can’t help but feel they are my guardians, they’ve never let me down, as so many people have – my owls have never once, on those summer nights then, or the cold winter nights now.


Walking With Lighter Feet

In the last, month, I would say, my eyes opened truly to how much damage we are doing to our beloved planet. Not only in humanity, but everything in nature. I was walking through the local Costco picking up groceries, more specifically I was walking down the candy aisle…guilty. And it struck me just how much plastic I saw, especially plastic bags inside of plastic bags with plastic wrappers. That alone made me think a little deeper. SOME newer plastic bags take 75 years to biodegrade, however, many are made of PET, or polyethylene terephthalate, may NEVER biodegrade and will forever be in landfills. So thinking beyond that, how many plastic bags on average have you thrown away in the last year, times that by 7.8 billion people on Earth, granted maybe not all of these humans use plastics, kudos to you. On top of plastic bags, lets think about plastic silverware, cups, products in general we throw to our garbage that are made of non-biodegradable plastics. Thinking even deeper, think of the factories where these are made, and what they are truly made from. Oil. I could go into this rabbit hole, but to keep you engaged here, I won’t. I undoubtedly fell into this hole. I am guilty of this all too well, absolutely. Not thinking enough about what impact I am making on Mother Nature. And I am now consciously taking steps to lighten my footsteps on this planet. In nature, we are given what we need to sustain ourselves, wood to build homes, food to eat including plants and animals, water to drink, etc. We need to nourish and protect that sacred bond. Here are a few things I am committing myself to doing, and I am welcome to any suggestions or further information anyone feels may benefit my personal challenge.

Utilizing reusable shopping bags. I recently purchased reusable shopping bags, pack of 10, off of Amazon for about $15. Not only that, but they were made from recycled material. Can’t get much better than that! I am committed to using these from now on for shopping trips or traveling vs using plastic bags. Here is a link explaining why plastic doesn’t biodegrade, for those of you like me who like to research:

A few extra dishes never hurt anyone. Plastic silverware is another item I am choosing to cut out. In doing so, I am now bringing silverware to work, on a picnic, etc.

Recycling my old plastic bags. I made a discovery just today, but Target accepts all plastic bags and recycles them. Maybe some of you already knew that, but I was so stoked to find this out! I have included a link, the one I used, to locate plastic bag recycling places nearby. I encourage those of you who have saved your plastic bags to check this out and see where you can bring them to be recycled properly. Here is also a link put out by Target in regards to their recycling program:

Glass/Tin Water Bottles Vs Plastic. We have a good number of reusable water bottles at home. At home, at work, or on the road, this is a much better solution than plastic water bottles. However, the plastic water bottles today, such as Aquafina, contain 50% less plastic, and can be recycled. Being diligent on choosing the recycling bin vs the regular garbage can makes a difference.

Growing/Making Food. Instead of purchasing goods at a store – grow a garden full of food, freeze it for the winter if you can, grow your own herbs and grind them to make your own seasonings, make your own bread, etc. Any or all of these are rad ways of being self-sufficient and can be very cost effective as well as healthier choices. I will also say that by doing any of these, you are also cutting down on how much waste you use as well in regards to the production, packaging, and distributing of your food items. Keep it in mind, most herbs are minimum maintenance, add some life to a room, and smell amazing. I am fortunate to have two beautiful garden beds to utilize for growing, and I love maintaining a garden and knowing my food is organic, completely pesticide free, and delicious; I know my family appreciates it too.

It’s hard to fathom sometimes what impact each and every one of us has on our planet, but it is a significant mark we each leave. And I’m now choosing to walk lighter going forward and teach my kids to do the same, one person can make a difference, and our family of five makes an even bigger difference. If any of you are inclined to, or already, practice better habits, please feel free to share in this journey or share what you do to protect our Earth. Love moments of enlightenment such as what I’ve had recently, felt like sharing some things on my blog about it.

Thanks for reading!




It’s been awhile since my last blog entry. We’ve had quite a busy Spring thus far, and my mind has been occupied in a billion directions – but I’m pleased to have a few moments to write down some reflective thoughts. End of April, late on a Friday night, our home flooded from the snow melting and the ground being frozen still. It was unexpected and caused us to vacate our home the following day due to the water damage. As a family, I think we all enjoyed our “staycation” outside of home – but we were relieved and happy to be back after everything dried out and the flooring removed. We missed it! Not only that, but we appreciate it even moreso now, the property in its entirety. Ironic how obstacles happen sometimes to shake up your perspective – make you adapt and overcome, as well as learn a little something in the process! One big thing I learned is how little we actually needed while we were displaced. We could’ve fit everything into one vehicle that we had lived off for the past few weeks, as a family of five. The most important things we carried with us was each other. Needless to say since we’ve been back, I’ve taken a new look at my items at home and decided to minimize. Now, I don’t have a lot, but I have more than I need. It feels good to come back home, and shed some old skin, carry forward with a new start. The kids and I have been going through our things for donations as well – contributing our quality items/clothing to the women’s shelter as well other charities. It genuinely feels good to let go of unnecessary materialistic things, some emotional ties to a few items too I’m sure, and gain a fresh and brighter perspective. I pose a question – what is one item you cannot live without and couldn’t ever foresee throwing away, what is your attachment to it and why? For me – it is my camera, I love reminiscing on moments, big or small. I’m curious and want to hear some from those who share!


8 Favorite Memories of 2017

Last year is filled with millions of moments I cherish every day. I’m fortunate to have them and have experienced them. I have countless favorite memories from 2017, so much so it’s hard to narrow them down to just a few to share! These are a few of my favorite memories from the year. Again, there are so many – but that makes me pleased to know – we lived well! Welcome to 2018 everyone! Best of luck in your endeavors and days ahead. Here we go:

One : My first ultrasound after we found out we were expecting Orion was heartwarming and incredibly moving. Branden was in Costa Rica at the time and this is the picture I sent him. I find being a mother has added such purpose to my life as well as determination to be my best and strongest self each and every day – carrying Todd and Orion was a privilege and bringing them into the world is a true honor. I will say too that having three sons, or at least I consider all of them as my own although one is not genetically, it has rooted that purpose and drive even deeper. I wouldn’t trade being a mother for anything and I love my family more than I could ever put to words.

Two : Branden got a new chair for his business clients and we were putting the recently-upholstered pads back on it. After the kiddos went to bed, we headed out our work space to start the task. It probably took us a few hours of sorting the pieces, nuts, bolts and pieces that needed to be put back on before we had it done and ready to go. But we had so many laughs and talks while putting it back together and figuring out how it worked. (Along with listening to some Chris Stapleton)  The lamp that lit our work space nearly fell on my head when the cord came a little loose, hence why I’m laughing so hard in the picture. Aside from working together on a project, spending quality time with each other and letting the conversation flow with ease is something we both value greatly. I remember this night very well. It didn’t take travelling, spending money, or even leaving home – we just had fun simply being ourselves meanwhile being productive. Plus I enjoy feeling helpful and getting to lend a hand, and we appreciate our solid teamwork. At another point in time – we also made a cool bird house out of scrap wood we found in the garage on a bit of a rainy evening – absolutely love these memories.

Three : One of my successful endeavors of 2017 was starting a garden. What first started out as me looking at doing a single raised bed kit from Home Depot quickly, surprisingly, and appreciatively turned into two large cedar custom raised garden beds built by Branden, Arnie, Bishop, and I helped a little too. One day I came home from work to Branden and Bishop shoveling a large truck load of garden soil out of Big Blue and into the garden beds – which I had been unable to pick-up myself at that point in time. That love and support I think made my garden a success. I spent a good number of hours outside plucking weeds, watering, picking vegetables and even got to teach the boys a bit about gardening as I learned. I am very excited to try this again this year and do some different vegetables. There is something to be said about being self-sufficient while being able to enjoy the outdoors and teach your children along the way. This year I think we also wanted to give a rain barrel a try for a water source.

Four : Finalizing my divorce and gaining my maiden name back. This may be a strange top favorite memory to some, but to me it was a huge self-accomplishment and finally closing a chapter. I think both myself and my ex would agree we are much better co-parents than we ever were before, happier and each at more peace. This closing of a chapter was a huge sigh of relief and put a few heavy stones behind me and my family. And what can I say other than we are all doing well, healthy, and happy. The sense of self-accomplishment came from completing the process and paperwork by myself – learning many things along the way about our legal system. I am extremely proud of this accomplishment in 2017.

Five : Todd’s 2nd birthday party. Now, to see my first born growing so fast makes me feel bittersweet, bitter in the fact that he is growing so much every day – not going to be my little baby Todd forever, but sweet in seeing him hit milestone after milestone, I am so proud of him and proud to be his mom. We celebrated his 2nd birthday at home with close friends and family – and everyone made it. It was a hot, but beautiful June day. Having everyone come and show Todd such love made my heart full, and getting to see people I don’t see often enough in celebration of his 2nd birthday made it that much more meaningful. I can’t believe he will be 3 years old this year!

Six: We live pretty close to a decent sized lake and were able to get out a couple times in the kayaks last summer. There was something so soothing about being out paddling in the peaceful serenity and enjoying the tranquil surroundings. What was even better was being able to share it with my incredible guy. We paddled out a ways and the linked our kayaks together with the paddles, and just relaxed for a bit. Sharing the sunset and talking about life together was memorable for me. On the way back, Branden even jumped into the water fully clothed and swam back while I kept guard for boats since it was getting dark. It really is the simple things sometimes that mean the most. This memory is another one dear to my soul.

Seven : From coming off of a flu bug, I was concerned I may not feel well enough to go see the White Buffalo concert in Minneapolis, but it ended up being exactly what we needed! A break from our kiddos, and just be us. We had some sushi at Seven in Minneapolis and then went to the saw the absolutely incredible White Buffalo show at the Cedar Cultural Center; after, walked around Minneapolis and saw some cool sights, and had an epic breakfast the next day at Hell’s Kitchen to top it all off. This was memorable for so much more, but after we came home, we both felt more relaxed and refreshed. Definitely one of my top favorites of the year.

Eight : Bringing Orion into the world is one I feel honored about that was a huge life-changing experience for not only myself, but our whole family. He came on his due date and was 9 pounds 1 ounce, but absolutely perfect. And having my rock by my side the whole time, comforting me and keeping me calm was an important part of the experience too. Orion fills our days with smiles, laughs, and cuddles. He is teaching us all lessons on a daily basis, including his two brothers. Our family of five is my everything.

Being Happy In The Now & Setting Goals For The Future – Avoiding The “If, Then”

I’m almost back to working full time – I’ve been able to work my way back into working full time outside the home this month and it’s been a pretty smooth transition all things considered. Transitions always have their pros and cons; but I feel like we, as a family, are all adjusting to having me back at work really well. I must admit at first I had a pretty intense case of anxiety – to go to a new job, new people, leaving my baby, and adapting to another change. However in the last year our family has gone through many changes and obstacles, but we’ve overcome them with ease. I’ve realized that getting comfortable doesn’t do much for oneself. We shouldn’t ever get too comfortable in our day to day because life is constantly changing, moving, transitioning, etc, and it keeps us open-minded when we can adapt and change our daily perspective from time-to-time. We can easily become stagnant, entitled, or as I previously stated, too comfortable. Not that this was the case for myself, but there were days where I perhaps felt a little of each of those three things I’ll admittedly state. With that said, I think there are days like that for each and every one of us. So back to my point here, aside from my anxiety I also wasn’t too excited to be back to this career. It’s what I know and what I’ve practiced for the past 6 years. I think I was dwelling on a few things, the anxiety, leaving Orion, and doing a job I’m familiar with but doesn’t necessarily bring joy. I realize now that I was basically digging myself a hole of negativity, something I normally do not do at all. I used the “if ____ happens, then I’ll be happy” mindset, luckily only for a short period of time. This is the absolute wrong way of looking at things-and for me especially it messes with me physically, mentally and emotionally when I think of things that way. I say this because I will proudly say I am, by nature, a positive and happy person and enjoy seeing others feel that way too. To me, that is the most powerful soul food out there, positivity, love, light, and being happy. So for me using the “if, then” thought, against my nature, instantly put my happiness on a contingency. Why should anyone do that? It’s a heavy weight to put on our own life and how we feel in our numbered days. With that said, I no longer have this weight I had, fortunately, only carried around for a short period of time. (But it was still long enough) I’m choosing to continue to simply be happy; to continue to see the positives in everything. The kind, down-to-earth people I have the pleasure of now working with, my supportive family, having a daycare center less than 2 miles from my job, having income to help support myself and family again, etc. WHATEVER the case may be, I’ll seek it out. So while I can find the good and beauty in each day, I can still have my goals. Where I want to go – I need to work hard for in multiple ways; which makes me appreciate my path even more. But in realizing how I should be looking at life in the now from a different perspective, I can see now how I can find abundant joy in the PROCESS of working to these goals, my day to day living, AND in the big picture. Now that is where we can thrive; we evoke happiness in ourselves and shine that light to others around us. And it’s all in our control; we can choose perpetual positivity if we practice it. To waste energy on looking at the glass half empty vs half full is a disappointment; by applying that energy to seeing the good we add value to our lives and our journey. Even when we may not be where we desire to be, or if we try and don’t succeed right away, we can still have the power to make the best of each and every moment and to build a stronger self than yesterday – perhaps more motivated or focused, but all the while feeling at peace with our souls. I’m still working towards where I want to be, I am motivated and driven to get there, but I can now, again, be at peace with my present journey as well. It’s not easy sometimes writing critique on myself or publicly admitting faults – even though we all are beautifully imperfect and have flaws, but I definitely feel I had stumbled a bit but picked myself up – and wanted to share for those of you who maybe too have stumbled. My hope would be to shed some light on how we can manifest our happiness into our thoughts, moments, future, etc. My mind has definitely cleared the clouds on this one and now it’s my tenacious task of putting it to practice daily.

Thanks for reading! ❤️

Cedar + Stone Candles – About My Handcrafted Candle Business Endeavor

I have VERY recently started planning for selling some of my homemade candles. I have been making them for a few months now and I have found such a peace, enjoyment and a happy hobby in the craft. What’s better than having a hobby that you can also share with others? I am extremely excited to be taking the steps in opening my online store. I plan to have many unique candles to pick from and put some creative love into each one to make it special. 

We each have different hobbies or interests that help our individual personalities shine: photography, painting, sports, writing, and many more! Each one feeds into our own being. Candlemaking is something I can definitely say I’ve found a passion in. (Along with photography, drawing, gardening and lately – writing!) Branden and I had both talked about running an online store and have been learning an abundance of information about it. Talk about a rabbit hole! But a very fascinating one at that; there is so much to know in regards to blogging, online sales, marketing, etc. So aside from candlemaking and forming my website, I’ve been learning a multitude of information! If any of you have an interest in blogging, I have some recommendations for you to check out if you reach out! I have a big career focus right now, which I’ve mentioned before and will hopefully be making the transition from the banking industry into my new career very soon; however I’ve found that I can do things such as candlemaking to help keep me motivated and on the positive side of life. 👍🏻😊 

Anyways, I wanted to name this business something that pertains to home of course! Bam, Cedar + Stone Candles popped into my head after weeks of playing with words and ideas. In our home, we have been adding cedar accents and we absolutely love the fresh, natural scent. The stone half of the name comes from us looking for stones around our home as well as around Minnesota (specifically our second favorite spot, the North Shore). I also want to add that I make each of these candles right in our home kitchen. The boys are learning a thing or two as well! Bishop and I plan to make some for some family Christmas gifts this year and have some more bonding time. 🙂 

As for my product, the quality of my candles, I will never compromise. And I plan to only use materials made in the USA as well as buying 100% natural or organic products. All of my candles so far follow true to that. I find that quality definitely is far too important and makes all the difference; I myself will spend more on homemade vs store bought because of the quality, craft and time put into each item. I am truly excited about this endeavor because…well, I love it! The whole creative art of it as well as teaching our kiddos about it. Each and every one of these candles has so much thought out into it, I want people to know that when they buy and receive their purchase in the mail. 

I plan to have a special running at first to gain some feedback and hopefully some new repeat customers! I’ll be announcing the website on social media and people will be able to easily purchase online with any major credit/debit card, PayPal, BitPay(BitCoin). So for those of you who wish to purchase, or just want to check out the site, keep an eye open! 😊 It’s far more than just making candles, it’s a real, honest passion.

Thank you to all who have already shown interest and support to me for this, it is not unnoticed and is greatly appreciated! You guys are the best!

Thanks for checking in!


My Return to the Work Grind

I’m starting my new job beginning of November and I am feeling a mix of emotions. I have been at home since mid August on maternity leave and have been blessed with the ability to raise Orion for the first few precious months of his life, be here when Bishop gets home from school, pick Todd up early from daycare and spend extra time with him reading and practicing words, as well as cook breakfast for Branden every morning and keep up with the house chores, bookkeeping, etc. It’s been an opportunity to also define where I want to head with my career and life. 

I’ll be completely honest here, I feel I am just now recently adapting to working at home. At first I felt a bit stir crazy, constantly finding things to occupy my time and give the kids attention. I had a few days where I felt “cabin fever” when Orion was brand new because I didn’t want to take him out in public with all of the germs. I found it difficult at first to find a schedule between all 3 of the boys and Branden but we have it down now! (Yay!) It’s a huge adjustment going from working 8-5 Monday through Friday every week; the most time I’ve ever taken off since I’ve been in the workforce was a week and that was 5 years ago. It feels strange not having an income or working outside the home when I’ve always had a job. However this has been one of the greatest blessings I could’ve had in life – getting to bond with my baby boy and helping us all to adjust to life as a family of five. I was unable to spend more than 5 weeks at home with my first son and it was a lot of stress going back to work so soon, to separate from my baby so soon. That has made me appreciate this valuable time even more because of that! Orion is incredible, only gets up twice a night and is a very happy baby. I don’t know how I got so lucky to have such amazing kids, all three, and my rock, Branden. With that said, it’s been a mixture of emotions from having Orion to now looking at returning to the workforce outside of the home soon. I want to point out that being at home is hard work, despite the popular belief pointing towards it being an easy job; there is always work to be done, chores, kids, errands, you name it, it’s a million daily tasks and they never end, even in the middle of the night. But I take an incredible amount of pride in those daily tasks, they are my job. Yes, there were days where it feels like I didn’t play much of a purpose other than feeding Orion what felt like a majority of the day 😉; other days where I feel like I made a world of difference and I was able to focus on my goals in life and as a family. There are so many ups and downs, but it’s all how you look at it. I look at how much I can do in a day and how I can try to have the house organized, laundry done, kids clean, and dinner ready by the time Branden gets home from work. It feels excellent to accomplish so much in a day and to keep a peaceful vibe at home during the evening by working hard during the day. It feels good that if anyone needs something done during the day, I can normally lend a helping hand no problem. I did have a few days where all I wanted was some adult interaction or to be out and about accomplishing more than things at home, making money, expanding insight, etc. Who can honestly say they have never had a day or two where they feel slightly stagnant? I don’t think anyone can, but that’s a good thing because it reminds us to work harder tomorrow. But I’ve grown to realize I’ve expanded more insight in these past few months than I have in a very long time. 

Money isn’t everything, everyone knows that. However I am looking forward to having an income again, to be able to help pay the bills, get back on a working schedule, and also put money into my goal career path. Yes, I am going back into the banking world at a smaller bank chain’s corporate office..for now. Orion and Todd are going to the same daycare and we will have a few more adjustments to make when that time comes. I’m looking at this as a stepping stone, working to become what and where I want to be. This goal of mine is not in the banking world, but rather using my abilities to create, make a difference, love what I do and help provide for my family. So while I’m feeling a bit of sadness thinking of this transition to not being the one taking care of my little one during the day and being with him all of the time, I am also finding myself prepared to embrace the challenge of achieving my goal career; on the starting line beginning of November. To finally be working towards this huge goal of mine, and to work hard at it. Sometimes we can get too comfortable in our daily lives and need something to remind us that nothing stays the same, ever. We need to keep pushing to be the best we can; no matter what that “push” or adaptation may be. I want the best future possible for myself and my family, and with the multitude of emotions aside, the fact is that when I can see the big picture, each being unique to ourselves of course, you can see where sacrifices may be made and challenges arise. This is how I will grow, tackling one challenge at a time. 

In a nutshell, my family has always made me feel important in any situation; while I was working or at home with the kids. Feeling appreciated and valued has given me such pride in my “mom job”. I couldn’t have been able to have the past few months without my family’s support either, and for that I am eternally grateful. I am proud of my family, our home and how we can live each day surrounded by abundant love, care and support for each other. I can also say I am proud of myself for pushing harder, for seeking new growth and trusting in my “big picture”, faced with new hurdles along the way. I’m keeping a positive and open mind about this new job and again, viewing it as one stepping stone to keep moving forward. I hope others can be proud of themselves too for making decisions for their own greater good, no matter what that may be. Embrace it, be proud of it, always! For those of you who know me well, you probably know where I want to head in my career and my plan I’m currently taking steps to execute, but for those of you who don’t, I hope you follow me along this journey as well. Having supportive vibes feels great and I feel fantastic looking to the future, and making each step count and giving it my all. 

As always, thanks for checking in! Wish me luck next week. We each only get one life, best to keep active in pursuing our dreams. ❤️


It’s More Than Carving Pumpkins

It started out with myself, Branden and the three boys going to St. Mathias Farm to pick out pumpkins last week. Finally some family time for the whole family! Branden and I were both stoked because it’s very rare we can find something that all of the boys can do with us. We loaded everyone up in the truck and shipped out. While our intention was to simply go pick out pumpkins as a family, we ended up in a corn maze, drinking some hot cider, enjoying a peaceful sunset, having fun and picked out the perfect pumpkins. Here is a picture of the boys going down one of the slides in the corn maze, and yes, Branden and myself both went down it too. 😉👍🏻  

 By the time we had gotten home it was time for Todd to head to bed since he has been getting over a cold AND was cranky towards the end of the evening. Nevertheless it was fun to see all of the boys with their smiles and laughter while sharing some ourselves.  Times like that I hold close to my heart and will always look back on. 

Then, the other night we picked out our individual concepts and carved our pumpkins. Now, as a kid, I can only remember carving a pumpkin maybe once, that’s it. My family didn’t really do much for Halloween growing up, a few costumes and trick or treating trips here and there but we eventually didn’t do anything for Halloween at all. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it was a missed opportunity to have some fun as a family. Branden, Bishop and myself sat outside on our back porch with our pumpkins and started drawing our concepts on. I had decided on an owl (possibly predictable for some of you who know how much I LOVE owls), Bishop decided on a dragon, and Branden was going to do a “cannibal pumpkin”. (Lol!) I may have been a tad over excited because this was the FIRST PUMPKIN I had carved for as long as I can remember; I’m almost positive I annoyed the hell out of the guys with all my excitement. We drew, talked, laughed and carved. It probably took us a few hours outside to get a majority of our carving done, but it was a few hours that passed by so easily. No phones, no television, no interruptions aside from Orion 😉. It was complete quality time with two of my favorite people in the world! Growing up, I always heard the term “home is where the heart is”. I grew up feeling that way especially around my home and my grandparents home during Thanksgiving and Christmas. After having kids, you wonder how you can still create that feeling for yourself AND your family. Last year for Christmas I got to decorate in my new happy home with Branden, Todd and Bishop. Aside from the decorating, we picked out a real Christmas tree too. We all noticed how cozy and warm it felt just to be relaxing at home. It is home. Not necessarily because anything we decorated with was extravagant or even because we were physically at home. It was because we, as a family, did things as a family. We have love, value, and respect. We bonded as one family, and we continue to bond and grow a little bit more each day. We picked out our tree, decorations and made memories together. And this year, we are celebrating Halloween as a family of five. Some of our most important thoughts, ideas, and conversations come from working on projects or hobbies that keep our minds running, I think we can all agree on that at some point in our lives. And I can say I had such an incredible memory “carved” into my mind by carving a pumpkin with my family; sharing in the quality time and mutual calm energy. It’s more than just carving a pumpkin, it’s a gift, it’s home, it’s the heart, a memory, and it’s a reminder of the importance of being a family. 

A Common Addiction 

Now, I may come off as a hypocrite since I am using my iPhone to write this, however I believe a majority of us may either be aware or perhaps not that we are addicted to our cell phones. And not only that, we are stealing moments from our own lives and literally throwing them away. To test this theory, I pose two questions for you to think about, and don’t worry, I myself am guilty of having my phone on too often, so if you are like me, you aren’t the only one. 

1) Could you do away with your social media for an entire week? Month? Year? Yes, you still need to be reached in case of an emergency, but could you disconnect yourself from Facebook, Instagram, all other apps and feel good about it? If your honest answer is no, then try to think about the reasons WHY you feel the need to stay constantly connected, and be honest with yourself; are the reasons healthy or unhealthy? 

2) Not to sound negative here, but one day, we all come to the end of our journey. That’s the truth, no one lives forever, and that is what makes life so beautiful and sacred. Each moment should matter because they are all limited and tomorrow is never a guarantee. So to pose my second question: if you keep your current habits throughout the rest of your life, what are the things you may wish you had done differently when that time comes when you reach the end of your journey? For me the answer would be I wish I would’ve spent even more moments chronicling my experiences, moments, children growing and learning without my phone for distraction. Among other things I wish I would read more books instead of watching television. Not saying these things are bad in moderation, but if I’m thinking about my current habits replayed years forward, I see so much precious time wasted. Here is my written dedication going forward that I am holding myself accountable to changing these habits now.

The technological world has evolved so much to make things incredibly easy for us to talk to each other without ever meeting up for coffee or actually seeing each other, to never leave the comfort of our home to go to the store, to make ourselves appear differently in a photo, to see what turmoil is happening in the world without needing to purchase a newspaper, etc. These things have caused us to become addicted to a life of only living part of it, being blind to what is actually happening vs what the left wing or right wing news pay to have shown online and cause biase and unnecessary uprising, and being unable to detach from our phones and enjoy a full conversation with another person. Many people don’t know this, but interactions with other people face to face is proven to prolong our life but also improve the quality of life. If you haven’t watched this before, I highly recommend it :

I pose a challenge to you, can you adjust how you use your phones/apps to add more moments to be productive, helpful, peaceful, whatever your reason may be? 

I find that within the first 5 minutes of being on Facebook, I see about 10 different pessimistic news stories, status posts or articles used to attract negative attention. I ask myself how those things make me feel, and little by little each of those negative things takes my energy. Imagine how much more energy I could have without that shit! It accumulates and I can put it to better use. Again, I’m using myself as an example. But think about your own perspective and how you feel about it. This is not meant to jab anyone, like I said, I’m being honest with myself and I’m guilty of being a phone addict too from time to time (it’s so easy to be sucked in sometimes!) So in posting this I’m looking to pose a potential new outlook or perspective. Reread the two questions above and watch the video from Ted Talks, it’s worth the time, and join in a personal challenge to yourself if you find it applicable! 

In a more personal challenge to myself, I want to go a whole week without any social media just to see what changes I feel mentally, emotionally and physically. If you want to join me, feel free!